in the car she took jordan's iphone and she knew EXACTLY how it worked! and he typed in his pass code while she was watching and that was it...she had it memorized. he had to change it when e got back to the hotel because she would barely let it go. and she kept trying to erase photos of herself. and since our camera died his phone had our only pictures and videos.
we went back to our room and signed some papers. we go back tomorrow to make it official.
we decided to have lunch in our room, mac n cheese. it was microwaveable but we had experimented at home and can do it with boiling water. the tea pot in our room probably doesn't have it all the was to boiling. and we probably didn't leave it long enough, because it was a little tough. Xiangting did not like it much. she also turned her nose up at m&m's and bunny crackers and a larabar...so by dinner she was hungry!
we played around the hotel room all afternoon. she is very active as her fill says. If I didn't believe in ADHD before...I do now!! she moves from one activity to the next very quickly. focusing is not her strong suit. she loves the computer and just clicks every available menu. same with the phones. she tries every game but only for about 2.5 seconds each. she asked to watch tv but then got fed up when the remote didn't work the first time she pushed the button. not sure she could sit still long enough to watch something anyway...the 12 hour plane ride should prove to be a challenge. I figured with an older child it would be a breeze...guess we'll see...
we went down to the hotel restaurant for dinner. she gobbled up her rice and some bread and then proceeded to take food from all our plates. food tends to be served family style in most places, but not this one...but we didn't stop her at this point. when we get home we can work on that.
but we got the biggest kick out of how she would take a napkin and clean her fork. then she would scrape all her food onto brendan's plate. (he was the trash collector she decided) then she would take the napkin and wipe the plate off. they must have had to clean their dishes at the orphanage. it was funny.
all in all brendan has been able to speak with her a lot. and most of the time we can get basic ideas back and forth. she has been frustrated a few times with our lack of understanding.we are grateful for the bit of chinese brendan has learned.
we spent quite a lot of time on drawing today. she is very good and we had this stamp pad but she thought it was finger paint and colored in all the things she drew. she was a mess! but nana will be happy to have another artist in the family!
well, having trouble uploading some of the pictures...will try again tomorrow. good night
We have prayed and prayed and hoped that Tem Boa boa (as she is known to us) would have a forever family! And now it is true!
ReplyDeleteShe maybe so active becauwe of nerves and trauma. Hope she settles down a little!
I agree with the previous post. Everything is brand new. She's likely never been in a hotel before; had access to all the "stuff" you guys have before (even as little as you have in a hotel room!) She is going from thing to thing, trying them out. She isn't sure of who you guys are or who you're going to be. Not really. She needs to try you out, too. She needs to know what her boundaries are going to be. I've read so many blogs and stories from families who have adopted older kids, and almost all of them say things exactly like this. But once they get home - once they figure out what their new place is going to be and what your place is and the traveling is over - they settle in and know what's theirs and what isn't and things are much better. Hang in there. I'm sure that by the time you get on that plane to come home, you will know each other much better already and she'll be fine. Praying for you all, and watching all the time for your updates. (((hugs!)))
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