I knew there was a lot of waiting in the adoption process. I knew it would be hard. I knew there would be times I would be upset by the waiting....what I didn't know is that it would be during this part of the process.
when we started, brendan and I said we would do whatever it takes to do the things dependent on us as fast as possible. we wanted our part to be done as fast as we can because we knew those on the other end of the equation don't have the same sense of urgency we do. so if we could do our part quickly it would, theoretically, shorten our wait...even a little.
our initial application documents and medical exams and fingerprinting was complete in 3weeks, which they say is fast. we waited on brendan's employment letter the longest. then the home study visits got moved up...GREAT! then we spent a long month waiting on someone to review it. IT SHOULD NOT HAVE TAKEN THAT LONG! then we got to review it...I thought that was it and in a matter of days we could send off for the immigration approval I had heard takes so long.
WRONG!
the state had to approve it, that took 2weeks. at the same time our primary adoption agency had to review it. they finished today...and they have revisions! meaning the social worker has to re write some things, maybe question us again! she says she hopes to have it done by MONDAY! we already hold state approval...that should be enough! this review process is bordering on the ludicrous!!!!!!!!!
crying...lots of crying gone on in the last 2 weeks...month...LOTS! and no one cares. all I get from anyone in the process is...everyone has to wait, it's part of the process...hang in there...
this is not ok! it should not be...but we tolerate it because we have to...there has to be a way to change this...there HAS to! I am paying A LOT of money to these agencies to do this service for ME! there should be a way to demand their timely review and completion. they work for me...right?
apparently not. because according to them, I have to tolerate the wait, and it upsets them when you question why it's been so long.
I'm a mess...this isn't right...it just isn't right!
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